Igbo lady marry Yoruba man: The kneeling issue and other real differences

Naija we get plenty tribes, but when love cross am, e get things wey go surprise you. I don see many people dey ask on social media, especially Igbo ladies wey dey date Yoruba men, wetin to expect. The main tins wey dey cause wahala na greeting culture and family acceptance.

The kneeling problem wey dey give Igbo ladies headache

If you be Igbo lady and you marry Yoruba man, prepare for one thing: kneeling to greet elders. For Igbo culture, women no dey kneel to greet, na curtsy or just nod. But for Yoruba land, if you no kneel when greeting your husband people, dem go say you no get home training. One Igbo lady wey marry Yoruba man for UK tok say she plan to wear both Igbo and Yoruba attire for her wedding, but the kneeling thing still dey worry her. Some people for Nairaland even advise say majority of the wedding should flow towards Igbo side, but you fit add Yoruba aspects like the groom prostrating to your parents.

25 years of cross-tribe marriage: Wetin one couple learn

I see interview with Pastor Orgaly Ugochukwu Adeyemi (Igbo man) and his wife Mojisola Orgaly (Yoruba lady). Dem don marry for 25 years. The wife talk say: "We have our differences. Mind you we are from different backgrounds – a Yoruba lady married to an Igbo man, with different culture. We decided to base our marriage on the Word of God." The husband, wey be pastor, talk say every fight she put up with am na based on possessive value she get for am. Na God hold them together, dem never even sit before counselor before.

"I called her one evening and asked her to go and get prepared because we would be getting married in September. She just walked away because God had already hinted her." - Pastor Orgaly

The truth be say, marriage no be by tribe. Whether Yoruba, Igbo, Hausa, or any other, the main thing na understanding and respect. But if you dey plan to marry across tribe, make you and your partner discuss all these cultural things before wedding. Things like how to greet, how to raise pikin, which family tradition to follow for ceremonies. Because if you no settle am before, e go turn to wahala later. For this our Nigeria economy, we need love wey go survive anything, not love wey go break because of kneeling or prostrating.