The Nigerian boyfriend who wants 50-50 but his money is 50 and yours is 50k

I was counseling a young sister last week, she is 27, works in a bank in Enugu. She told me her boyfriend wants them to split everything equally. House rent, food, even data for his phone. She said, Pastor, I don't mind 50-50, but the problem is his 50 is 50 naira and my 50 is 50,000.

I just laughed and shook my head. Nwanne, I have seen this many times. These men want a strong independent woman when it comes to bills, but when it comes to decision making, suddenly tradition matters. You must respect him, he is the head. But the head is not paying for anything. The head is just there for decoration. Our people say a man who does not provide will always try to control. It is a law of nature.

She told me he said, If you love me, you will understand. I asked her, Does he understand when you are the one paying for his fuel and his data and his dry cleaning? She just kept quiet. My sister, love that costs you your peace is not love. It is a business arrangement where you are the one losing.