If your partner doesn't like your friends, that is a red flag you are ignoring

I was counseling a young couple last week. The girl was telling me how her fiancé doesn't like her childhood friends. She said he calls them bad influence. She has stopped seeing them. She has stopped answering their calls. And she was telling me this like it was a good thing.

My sister, that is not love. That is isolation. The thing about life is, when somebody wants to separate you from the people who knew you before them, it is not because they care about you. It is because they want to be the only voice you hear. In my counseling experience, I have seen this pattern so many times. It starts with your friends. Then it becomes your family. Then it becomes your job. Before you know it, you are alone with somebody who now controls everything.

I am not saying your partner must be best friends with your crew. But if they actively dislike the people who have been with you through your struggles, you need to ask yourself why. Our people say when a man tells you not to eat a certain food, check if he is the one selling it. Nwanne, who is benefiting from your loneliness?