The real reason your group chat is quiet is not what you think

See ehn, I noticed something the other day. My group chat with my boys from UNILAG, we used to dey talk from morning till night. Now the chat is dry like harmattan. I thought we were all just busy or maybe the friendship don expire.

Then I went to visit one of them in Lekki. The man was sitting on his couch, phone in hand, scrolling the same group chat. I asked why he no dey reply. He looked at me and said, "Deji, I don't get anything to contribute. Everyone just dey post their wins now. New job, new car, new house. If I say anything, e go look like I'm begging for sympathy."

That hit me. We all dey there, waiting for someone else to start a real conversation, but nobody wants to be the one to say life is actually hard. So we just post our highlights and let the chat die. The silence is not because we don't care. E be like everybody dey hide inside their own wahala. Funny thing is, the moment one person opens up, the floodgates open. But nobody wants to be first. In this economy, even vulnerability get price.