She Asked For My Salary Before Saying Yes. I Sent It. Now I'm Confused.

My cousin finally proposed to his girlfriend after 3 years. She said yes. Then she asked him one question: how much do you earn monthly? He told her. She went quiet and said she needs to think about it. Wallahi, I have never seen a man look so defeated.

From where I sit in Abuja, this thing is becoming normal. Girls are not hiding it anymore. They want to know your salary before they commit. And honestly? I understand it. The cost of living in the capital is not a joke. Rent is crazy. School fees for one child is almost ₦500,000 per term. Fuel is now over ₦900 per litre. If she is going to leave her family name and follow you, she wants to know what she is entering.

But there is a way to ask. There is a way to discuss. When you reduce a man to his account balance before you even say yes, you have already told him what matters most. My honest counsel to my cousin was simple. If she needs to think about it, let her think. But he should also be thinking. Marriage is not a job interview. Abi what do you think?