I Was the Side Guy for a Married Woman for 2 Years and I Knew Her Husband

This thing started small. She was in my youth group before she married, and after the wedding she kept coming back for counseling. I told myself I was helping her. Her husband traveled for work, she said she was lonely, and I listened. I listened too well.

We never planned it. One evening after a program she was crying, I held her hand, and that was it. Two years. I watched her husband shake my hand after service every Sunday. He even gave a testimony about how God blessed him with a good wife. I stood there and said amen.

I stopped it myself, no one caught us. I told my wife everything, and that was the hardest night of my life. She stayed. I don't know why she stayed. I stepped down as youth pastor for a year. I am back now but I still see that man's face when I preach about integrity. God is not a vending machine, nwanne. You cannot serve him and keep one part of your life in the dark.